How much time and energy do you spend worrying about things you can’t control? If you’re like most people, probably a lot. After all, a considerable portion of life is out of your control, and if you focus on those things, you’ll be constantly worried.
For the most part, you can’t control:
- The actions and responses of others
- Local and global events
- What others think
- People’s opinions of you
- The past
- The inevitability of death
- And a whole lot more!
Worrying about the things you can’t control is a waste of time. It literally won’t change a thing. And what’s worse, it can divert your focus from the things you actually can control. When you fear what is outside of your control, you have less energy to use on what you can make a difference.
What can you control?
- How you respond
- What you think about
- The ways you treat others
- The information you consume
- How you treat your body
- Your self-talk
- Your sleep habits
- How consistent you are
- And much more
When you focus on what you can control, your fears will significantly lessen, and your life will dramatically improve.
Think of it in terms of American football. A defensive back can’t control where the quarterback throws the football, but he can hold his response to the throw. The more the defensive end focuses on how he will respond, the better he’ll play.
The same is true in life. You can’t control a significant portion of what happens, but you do have power over how you respond. The more you focus on your actions and thoughts, the better things will go for you.
In his book Life, the Truth, and Being Free, Steve Maraboli said, “Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.”
When you find yourself dealing with fear, stop and ask yourself, “What things are under my control?”
Once you identify those things, give all your time and energy to them. Avoid spinning your wheels over something where you have no control. Turn your fears into action.
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