How Do You Sabotage Your Success?

Everyone has had the experience of self-destructing. It’s a strange feeling to know that you ruined the very thing you were trying so hard to accomplish. Most self-sabotage is the result of discomfort. It can be the discomfort of failing, succeeding, or having to perform uncomfortable tasks.

You may have heard the saying, “Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.” Unfortunately, most of us are well-practiced in the art of avoiding discomfort. The most common way we sabotage our success is to avoid being uncomfortable.

Are you sabotaging your success? Consider these points:

  1. Distractions. The tasks that we need to do to be successful are typically less appealing than watching TV, surfing the internet, or spending time with friends. We are experts at distracting ourselves, and the urge to seek out distractions increases with the task’s unpleasantness.
  • Solution: Allow yourself to have distractions, but control when and how long you engage in them. You might give yourself 30 minutes of distraction time after three hours of work. Or, you might limit distractions to the evening after you complete your work for the day.
  • Procrastination. Distractions are one way of procrastinating, but there are countless ways to procrastinate. The general theme is that you are doing something other than what you should be doing.
  • Solution: Be clear about what you need to do and why.
  • Focus on just getting started, which is often the most challenging part of working.
  • Use a timer and see how much you can accomplish in 30 minutes.
  • Indecisiveness. Indecisiveness is a success killer. When you can not make up your mind, progress comes to a stop. If you wait until you have all the wisdom and information necessary to make a perfect choice, you will be waiting a long time. You have to pull the trigger and move forward.

    • Solution: Be clear on what you need to do to accomplish your objective.
  • Give yourself a time limit. You might give yourself 10 minutes or a day to make a decision. Then decide and do your best.

  • Negative thoughts. For many people, the closer they get to success, the more negative thoughts they experience.

    • Solution: Take control of your mind and think thoughts that are useful to you. Cheer yourself on rather than criticize your actions.

    • Ignore the random noise of your mind. You do not have to engage with your random thoughts. You can choose to ignore them.

  • Focus on low-priority tasks. We like to work on our projects but avoid the essential functions. The most important tasks are often the least enjoyable, so we avoid them. We tackle the less critical tasks because it allows us to feel like we’re still making progress.

    • Solution: Have a list of tasks to do each day ordered from most important to least. Start at the top of your list and work your way down.

  • Quitting. The ultimate way to sabotage your success. You can not achieve anything if you stop before you are successful. Many people have a habit of leaving the project or goal right before achieving success.

    • Solution: Develop the habit of finishing what you start. Avoid caving into the fear that crops up when you are about to find out if you were successful or not. Remember that you can always try again, regardless of the outcome.

Self-sabotage is a significant problem to have because you do not need to try to change anyone else. The entire issue is your responsibility! It might sound disheartening, but it is easier to change yourself than change someone else.

The person responsible for your successes and failures is staring at you in the mirror each day.

Keep these tips in mind as you go through your day, and soon, you will find yourself enjoying your successes instead of mourning your failures!

That is it for today. I do hope these articles are of benefit to you. Until tomorrow, stay safe, and keep the faith.