Fear of Failure Kills Dreams Before They Start

Worrying about failure can cause crippling fear. For some, fear of failure prevents them from taking action towards their dreams. From starting their own business to asking someone out on a date, fear of failure can keep them from their heart’s desires.

The fear of failure is often a bunch of micro-fears mashed together to create an overarching anxiousness about all the things that could go wrong if we step out of our comfort zones. Ultimately, while we may fear particular things each time we face risk, in the end, shame is the predominant fear attached to failure.

Let’s take a closer look at what that means-

Failure can trigger typical and common emotions like frustration, disappointment, anger, and even embarrassment. These emotions on their own may make us feel guilty, and they can be managed if/when they happen, but sometimes failure results in shame. At the same time, guilt is feeling wrong about something we did. Shame is feeling poorly about who we are. When fear of failure is tied to our worth and value, it’s a huge deal.

Signs You May Be Fearful of Failure

Many times, the fear of failure is subconscious. Though you may feel anxious when thinking about taking a risk, you may not know why. Here are some signs fear of failure could be the reason.

The thought of failure makes you worry people will reject you

The idea of failure makes you fear you will ruin your future

The thought of failure makes you believe you can’t recover

The view of failure gives you physical illnesses, so you don’t take action

If these sound similar to your feelings, you may be experiencing fear of failure consciously or subconsciously.

Tips to Overcome Fears of Failure

Tip: Be honest with your inner circle- If you’re fearful taking a risk will somehow disappoint others or cause them to reject you, start a conversation. While you shouldn’t share your innermost thoughts with casual friends, those who matter most to you will likely dispel your fear and offer to be supportive of your dreams.

Tip: Identify your fear and own it- Some of us have irrational fears. Fear of heights, reptiles, and speaking in public are all familiar. If you can identify your fear and own it, you can often minimize its hold. Acknowledge you have a fear attached to your dream and take action regardless. You do not have to be fearless. It would help if you fear less.

Tip: Control what you can- Many fears are based on the unknown aspects of taking a risk. Control what you can. Managing what’s in your control will give you the confidence you need to keep going. As bumps in the road come up, you can face them one at a time. Over time you gain maturity and personal experience that makes it easier to manage hiccups when they happen.

Sadly, fearing failure can kill dreams before they have a chance to blossom. You can control much of what you fear. As Walt Disney said, “If you can dream it, you can do it.” 

Until next, stay safe, and keep the faith.

4 Steps to Tackling Avoidance in Your Daily Life

I thought this article would be of great interest to those of you who, like myself, find excuses to put off doing things I do not enjoy doing.

Do you ever feel like you’re just not getting things done in your day? If you’re spending your evenings beating yourself up over what you failed to accomplish during the daylight hours, you’re not alone. According to recent statistics, 88% of people spend at least an hour of the day procrastinating, if not more.

If this statistic bothers you, it’s time to take action. But how can you tackle avoidance once and for all so you can get done what you need to? You can start by taking these four concrete steps:

What Are You Doing Now?

If you’re not doing what you’re supposed to, you’re doing something else. What has your attention? Why? What makes this action preferable? Generally, whatever you’re doing is what you’ve wanted to do all along. So what is it?

What Do You Like About the Current Action?

By answering this question, you’re already digging deeper into your needs and emotions. What is it about the current thing you’re doing which makes it so appealing? This answer might take a little bit of thought. For example, several famous writers have joked about starting to clean the house on a deadline.

You wouldn’t think folding laundry is preferable to prepare a book for publication. Or is it? Maybe something is appealing about laundry. Laundry might beat writing when you get to the editing step that involves hearing criticism from someone else about your work. When you look at it that way, bringing order from chaos sounds much better than dealing with an exacting critique.

So, How Can You Get the Same Benefit?

Now that you know what you like about your current activity, is there some way to apply this to what you’re doing now? In the previous example, if the appeal has to do with making things neat and orderly, maybe the writer can consider working through the editor’s comments and dealing with them as making the words on the page tidy. Can the same satisfaction be derived from the page? As you can see, this might take some creative thinking.

Do the Thing…and Enjoy the Benefits

Now put it all into practice. Go back to the task you were avoiding and apply the same principles to your work, so you feel like you’re getting the same payoff. How does it feel? It might take a little practice, with some adjusting until you get the desired effect, but you will come to find enjoyment in the things you used to dread over time. Whatever the case, make sure to celebrate your success because you just did something unique. You just rewired your brain to find enjoyment in something you never knew you could!

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

Million Dollar Speakers Summit

The last four days were outstanding. I attended the Million Dollar Speakers Summit hosted by Arvee Robinson. Arvee is a woman on fire with a mission to help you become the best you can be.

The information she provided easily made it quite clear why the same had the name it did. Arvee did not talk to us; she shared information we could use. She allowed us to work on the plans she gave us and offered us the opportunity to share our thoughts with her and each other.

Each day there was a guest speaker. The whole event was full of life and energy. The days were long(twelve hours), but I felt disappointed to leave at the close of each day.

There were several excellent speakers. The speakers who spoke were CJ Gilbert, Angelique Sunshine, Jason Christopher, Ardeena Brooks, and Deb Ringer. Each speaker had a fantastic story to share of their beginnings and getting started and where they are today.

The first night we enjoyed a networking mixer. The atmosphere and the friendliness of all the attendees were exceptional.

The next night, Elvis brought the house down. Scott Robertson was an outstanding Elvis Presley impersonater, and even he showed us he could be a great Johnny Cash as well. We danced and sang along with Elvis. It was the first time in quite a while I had fun dancing without leaving my home.

The last night before our final day, we talked about what we learned and how to use the information. Individuals opened up and shared themselves. Even I shared a bit of information I had not spoken of before with anyone.

Arvee Robinson does this event once a year and has predicted it will be a live event again next year. I know everyone is excited about doing live events again, but I am enjoying the virtual events.

The valuable information provided to us was so excellent. It is up to us to put the knowledge to use. I know I plan to do just that, and I can not wait to see the results.

Below are a few pictures from the event for your enjoyment. Until next time, please stay safe, and keep the faith.

Whose Job Is It?

I found this verse and thought you might like to read it. I am sure some of you have already, but might get a kick out of reading it again. Have fun and share it with others who may need a laugh.

This is a story about four people named Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, and Nobody.

There was an important job to be done, and Everybody was asked to do it. Everybody was sure Somebody would do it. Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it. Somebody got angry about that because it was Everybody’s job. Everybody thought Anybody could do it, but Nobody realized that Everybody wouldn’t do it. It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody did what Anybody could have done.

The important lesson is—Communication!!!

Do not assume– Find out and take the initiative!!!

Author Unknown

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

Know Who You Are

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It is essential to know yourself. It may seem like an obvious statement, but many people do not know who they are. Dig deep to discover the subtle aspects of your life that you tend to ignore or keep hidden. There is no need to hide your true personality because that is who you are. You cannot change that.

To try to be a carbon copy of someone you admire is to set yourself up to fail. You are uniquely and wonderfully made with your personality and thoughts. Borrow from others, but change it to work with who you are.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

A Quote

“Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure…than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat.”

Theodore Roosevelt-

Tomorrow, I will give you two write ups. I ran out of time today. Until then, stay safe, and keep the faith.