THOUGHT

“Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing
in our own sunshine
. Ralph Waldo Emerson

How true this is! I lost out on a promotion because I was too busy explaining why I was not the right person for the position.

I should has have shared my skills and qualifications. Then I should have asked for support for the things I did not know and assured them I was a fast learner and would continue to give 110% of myself to the position.

I shared my weaknesses and did not get the position. I hope you do not make the same mistake. Get out of the shadow of your sunshine. Let your brightness shine and let others see what you are capable of doing.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

How To Be More Outgoing for Introverts

There is a common misconception that introverts despise social gatherings. However, this is not exactly the case. Everyone craves social interaction just in diverse ways. If you call yourself an introvert, you understand this all too well.

You want to get out and interact with people, but the way most people do it prevents you from venturing out. You always question how you can find the motivation, determination, and be more outgoing like extroverts?

Fight Your Fears

In other words, dive right into them. Most experts claim that if you want to accomplish more in life, you must conquer your fears, and to do so, you need to head them face on. This means if you fear public speaking, find ways to do more of it. Do not avoid it. Most fears stem from a lack of experience, and simply put, the more you do something, the more experience you will gain.

Extroverts Have Insecurities Too

Realize that you are not alone. Even confident people have moments of weakness. That goes for extroverts too. Even though they often are highly confident and are, it does not mean they do not have moments of self-doubt. They know how to push through and control their emotions to continue.

Start Small

There is no reason to change overnight, and do not expect it either. Gradual change is healthier, and research shows you are likely to be more successful eventually. For example, those who lose weight immediately end up gaining it back faster than those who gradually lose weight. Meaning they will be healthier overall.

Understand Your Boundaries

You are still an introvert, and there is nothing wrong with that. You can still be an introvert and outgoing. It starts with understanding your boundaries, like putting a time limit on outings or establishing one day alone to yourself each week. Introverts need time to rewind and gain the energy to be social again. Instead of fighting it, limit it.

Start Talking First

Be the first to break the ice. Ask other questions and be curious about them. Let others talk about themselves and get to know them. When others get talking, the rest is easy. As your comfort increases, you will realize that diving into the unknown is not as scary as it seems.

Start slow and do not create elevated expectations for yourself. Remember, being more outgoing means trusting yourself and living life with confidence. That does not mean you will be perfect or will not make mistakes now and then. Pick yourself back up, learn from the mistake, and keep practicing allowing yourself to be more outgoing.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.