Fear: The #1 Thing Standing In Your Way Of True Happiness

“Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.” Dorothy Thompson

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Everyone has fears. It’s normal. It’s how we react to them that makes the difference in how we feel. But you might find yourself weighed down with too much fear that’s preventing you from being truly happy. If that’s the case, it’s time to get familiar with your fears and find ways to work through them.

Here are 4 common fears and ideas to help you deal with them.

  1. Fear of failure. This is a common fear, often stemming from our childhood. Fear of failing a test, for example. This fear brings on the feeling of being judged or embarrassed. In reality, failing is part of success. Overcome this fear by not worrying about the outcome and only focusing on the process of getting to success.
  • Fear of success. This fear stems from many different fears: fear of change, responsibilities, attention, vulnerability, and many others. The best way to overcome this fear is to focus on one step at a time while moving forward.
  • Fear of rejection. The fear of being rejected is a reaction to our innate need for belonging. It can include fears of being judged, not being liked, or being alone. To overcome this fear put yourself out there, reminding yourself that the right people will respond to you favorably.
  • Fear of not being good enough. This fear is rooted in how we feel about ourselves. Our low self-esteem keeps us from not trying because of a lack of confidence. You can overcome this fear by starting small with things you know you can accomplish. Keep doing more steps to build your self-confidence.

We all have fears of some kind. They may seem rational to us but appear irrational to others. To overcome your fears you need to understand why you have them and then work on facing them so you can live a life of true happiness.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

My Week in Review

I am thrilled to have this week come to an end.

The Suit Up and Show Up Summit has ended. It was a magnificent event. We heard some fabulous speakers, and the Moderator, Dr. Roz Knighten-Warfield, and MC, Trish Carr, of The Women’s Prosperity Network, did a superb job. The host and producer, Dr. Patricia Rogers, outdid herself with this event with the help of Soumyadipta Das and his team, who helped make the event look good enough to rival the Oscars. It was exciting to be a part of the event, and I had the honor of being one of the speakers.

For me, the end of the summit was the conclusion of a very long week. Except for the Book in a Weekend, which is tomorrow. Below is a list of things I have done this week:

·       Toastmasters
·       Bible study
·       Writer’s orientation
·       Meeting coach
·       Advisory board meeting
·       Journal and creative writing group
·       Business partners
·       business coach
·       Bank
·       Speaker’s mastermind
·       Writing practice
·       Started writing a story
·       Mastermind
·       Radio Host Meeting
·       Suit Up & Show Up Summit
·       Launch of the Power Me Up Radio Talk Show
·       Suit Up & Show Up Summit
·       Book in a Weekend
·       Post on Facebook every day
·       Blog post every day
·       Two speeches
·       Two prerecorded podcast shows
·       Three Facebook lives

I am exhausted but must finish the book in the weekend tomorrow. Sunday starts another week. A little less hectic, I hope.

It was a busy week but exciting. I have not shared the start of my Journal and Creative Writing Group. It’s every Monday at 6 pm PDT, and you can register at https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZApdO2rpjMvGNb7BI4c8LbaRu734dUNBE3L.
Now you know what I have done this past week. Next week looks better, but you never know what may come up and change your plans. Now, I believe I will prepare myself for bed. It has been a long week. Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

Events Galore

Today was a hectic day for me. I was part of the Suit Up and Shut Up Summit, hosted by Dr. Patricia Rogers. I went to the Power Me Up Talk Radio Launch when I left her event. All the radio hosts were introduced on live streaming radio.

The shows begin to run tomorrow morning officially. I will let you know when my show airs as soon as I get the schedule.

Tomorrow, I am one of the speakers at Suit Up and Show Up Summit. Tomorrow promises to be just as exciting with some great speakers. I am looking forward to this spectacular event.

Until tomorrow, stay safe, and keep the faith.

Plans & Projects

In a month, it will be spring. I have begun work on my project now. February 28th will mark one year I have worked with individuals on journaling and later I added creative writing to the group for those who expressed an interest in writing.

I have made the decision to celebrate my business anniversary and my birthday together. Mark your calendar for April 4th, at 6 pm to celebrate. It will be on zoom, and you will have to register. I will provide more information in the next few days.

In the meantime, here is a tip to help build confidence:

Learn Something New

Start with an achievable goal and set higher goals as you accomplish them to keep you motivated. While engaging in new skills, you might discover a talent that gives you a sense of purpose or a creative outlet.

Your brain is capable of change and growth at all stages of life. According to Piedmont.org, the brain’s prefrontal cortex thickens when learning new skills demonstrating a physiological change that correlates with higher IQ and better memory.

As we learn, we build confidence in different areas of life and shut down fear and anxiety. In continuing to learn new skills, you can expand your comfort zone instead of just stepping out of it temporarily.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

Gratitude Is A Way of Living

First and foremost, gratitude is a way of living. It is a state of being where you open yourself up to receive good things.

It is a posture of openness, receptiveness, and willingness to receive abundance.

And when you do receive those very good things, you instinctively and consistently give thanks.

In other words, gratitude is not a one-time event where you say, “Thank you.” It’s an entire way of being in which you joyfully receive good things and give thanks for those good things.

The great author and philosopher Ralph Waldo Emerson put it this way:

Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you and give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.

So, gratitude is a habit. It’s a perpetual way of life, almost like breathing. You take in something good and breathe out gratitude.

  • Receive
  • Be grateful
  • Receive
  • Be grateful

It’s a beautiful cycle and a powerful way to live.

Additionally, gratitude encompasses all things. As Emerson said, “All things have contributed to your advancement.”

Everything in life happens for a reason, and in every circumstance, there are valuable things for us to learn. These practical things help us advance in life, primarily in character.

Because all things contribute to our advancement, we must live a life of gratefulness for all things that come our way.

Sometimes it isn’t easy, but I have found that when I choose to be grateful for even the small things in life, I feel better, and good things start to happen. Remember, it is always your choice how your life turns out.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

The Grateful Life

What is the difference between someone full of joy, has a zest for life, and always seems to have a smile on their face, and someone grumpy, cranky, and a total drain to be around?

Is it the amount of money they have?

Is it simply their personalities?

Is it the circumstances they’re going through?


While all those things certainly can play a role in the joy a person experiences, they’re not the primary factor.

The primary factor is gratitude.

Gratitude has the power to change any situation. A better way of putting it is that gratitude can change how we experience any problem.

Being grateful may not change your circumstances, but it does change you, and that makes all the difference.

Sonja Lyubomirsky put it beautifully when she said:

Gratitude is an antidote to negative emotions, a neutralizer of envy, hostility, worry, and irritation. It is savoring; it is not taking things for granted; it is present-oriented.

It is the power of thankfulness. It has the power to change the very way we experience life. It can neutralize negative emotions and enable us to learn precious lessons even during challenging circumstances.

Thankfulness has the potential to transform your health, both mental and physical. It can also convert your spirituality and help you attract good things into your life.

With thankfulness comes great power. And the more you cultivate gratitude, the more power you’ll experience in your life.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.