Reaching your goals is hard. It can be hard to figure out why when you fail. Sometimes the circumstances or the situation are to blame. Other times, it’s not so easy to find the cause. Have you ever wondered if it might, be YOU? Could you be holding yourself back from succeeding? It’s more common than you’d think for people to sabotage themselves in this way. What’s behind it? Something called limiting beliefs.
What’s a Limiting Belief?
The human brain thinks in stories. Your mind holds an almost infinite number of stories about the world around you and about the people that you know. It also has many stories or beliefs about yourself, some of which are healthy and some aren’t. A limiting belief is one of the latter. It’s a story about yourself that you believe, precisely one that isn’t (or shouldn’t be) true.
Examples of limiting beliefs you might hold include things such as “I’m too old for that,” “Nobody likes me,” “I can never succeed and am doomed to failure,” and “Why to bother when I can’t do it?” None of these limiting beliefs are objectively true, but the human brain isn’t rational, and if you hold one of these beliefs in your subconscious, your brain will try and make them accurate.
The result of that is self-sabotage. Your subconscious attempts to make the stories it believes about you accurate. So, you sabotage your relationship, miss the critical deadline, or fail the test, all in service to something your subconscious believes. It turns into a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Unless you overcome your limiting beliefs.
What Should You Do About Your Limiting Beliefs?
The first thing you must do to get over your limiting beliefs is recognized them. What stories are you telling yourself? Once you know the story, remember that it is just that-a story. One that isn’t true and doesn’t need to become true. Once you’ve reached this point, you need to create a new story. For example, if your limiting belief is “I can’t do this,” then you need to change it to “I can learn to do this” or something similar. Repeat it repeatedly to yourself until you start to believe it and whenever you feel the doubt creeping in.
Limiting beliefs are hard to overcome, but they can be done. Don’t let the negative stories your subconscious believes define you!
Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.