A limiting belief is something that your unconscious mind believes about yourself, other people, or the world. These beliefs hold you back from accomplishing your goals because you believe them, but guess what? They aren’t objectively true. That’s one of the hallmarks of a limiting belief.
Here’s an example. Let’s say you believe you’re bad at math, but you want to go to college and major in something that requires a lot of math. Are you bad at math? Probably not; most people can learn to do basic math well, and the majority can also know to do higher-order math if they apply themselves. But because you believe you’re bad at math, you have trouble mastering the math skills required for your program. This is a classic example of a limiting belief.
Other common examples abound. The fear of failure is a common limiting belief that leads people to avoid following their dreams because they don’t want to fail. Many people have the limiting idea that they’re unlikable. Others believe that they can’t succeed because there are too many obstacles or they can’t hold down a relationship or a job. All of these are limiting beliefs. They aren’t true, but the unconscious mind believes them.
Limiting beliefs are defense mechanisms. Your unconscious mind creates one to protect you from harm. These are almost always made during childhood when your mind isn’t developed enough to tell the difference between things that are undeniably harmful (like falling into a fire) and things that aren’t permanently hurtful (such as being rejected when you ask a classmate to the fifth-grade dance).
It’s not weird or unusual to have limiting beliefs. It’s perfectly normal, in fact; every person has some, even if they don’t realize it. No one reaches adulthood without developing some limiting beliefs. You can identify yours by searching your unconscious and examining your thoughts and past behavior.
What do you do once you identify your limiting beliefs? Do you accept them and find ways to work within them? You could, but that would deny you the personal growth you want and keep you from reaching your goals. Instead of accepting them, you can work to overcome them. It isn’t easy and takes a lot of work, but it can be done. You must want it badly enough to fight for your dream. How bad do you want to reach your goals?
Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.