Everyone has dreams, but not everyone makes their dreams into goals. You may have a few of these too. What are the reasons you tell yourself late at night to put the shutdown on making them a reality? These reasons are beliefs that you have, but that doesn’t mean they are valid reasons.
- Not Enough Time
Everyone is busy these days. When someone asks how you are doing, you probably respond with “Busy.” But that might not be the truth. Everyone has the same twenty-four hours in the day. For a week or maybe two, keep a time ladder of how you spent your time. This includes sleeping, preparing and eating meals, social media, getting ready for work, cleaning your house. Take a good look at how you spend your time, and you might realize you have more time than you realize.
- I Don’t Have ‘X’ Talent
It doesn’t matter if you want to write a book or paint a picture. You have as much talent as you are willing to work for. You may not have been born with the natural ability to paint, which doesn’t mean you can’t learn and practice.
- After ‘X’ I Will Do It
“Once I get through this (insert tough project at work), I will start training for that marathon.” “After I lose twenty pounds, I will take a salsa dancing class.” Why are you waiting? Maybe that marathon training will help you work through the stress of that project at work. Perhaps salsa dancing lessons will allow you to realize that your body is worthy of fun and sexy movement no matter your weight. If you have a goal, go for it now.
- I’m Not Good Enough
What ruler are you using to measure your “good enough”? You are always good enough to go after your dreams and goals. If this is an internal dialogue, you need to work on liking and loving yourself first. If this belief is coming from external sources, consider those sources and hold you back.
- ‘X’ Person Has it Easier
The grass is greener where you water it. Walk a mile in someone else’s shoes. Many sayings sum up that you don’t know what someone else is going through. So please do not assume that someone has it easier and can achieve their goals while you cannot. That person may think you have it easier or better.
Self-limiting beliefs can be a slippery slope. They can also keep you from even trying to reach your goals. Take time to examine your reasoning and develop better beliefs to counter the negative ones.
Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.