Below is part 2 of “The Gift of Self-Confidence.”
Be Fully Present
Nothing is as powerful for your mindfulness as confidence. Since you’re no longer distracted by what everyone else might be thinking of you, you’re free to be fully present right where you are.
Instead of worrying that other moms are judging you because you let your toddler eat crushed up chips from the floor of your minivan, you can focus on enjoying the moment with your child, content in the knowledge that those chips probably aren’t going to harm him (even if they weren’t the baked organic kind).
Part of being self-confident means that you release the weight of everyone else’s opinions, regardless of whether you agree with them or not. You listen to your own inner compass and trust that she’s a smart guide who knows the way. The beauty of doing this is not only will you feel free, but you’ll be appreciating your life as it happens.
Explore New Challenges
When you lack confidence, challenges are something you must hide from. They might reveal a weak spot, a vulnerability, or one of your insecurities. You work hard to only take on tasks that you know you’ll shine at.
As a result, you never get to explore new challenges. You don’t get the thrill of tackling a huge new project at work or home. You don’t get to step outside of the tiny box of “things you are good at”.
But what if you did? What if you discovered that despite what your high school art teacher said you can paint a beautiful mural on your bedroom wall? What if you found out that you really do have a talent for refashioning old furniture?
When you focus on building your confidence, you can look a challenge in the eye and boldly take it on. Your confidence doesn’t mean that you’ll automatically excel at everything you do. But it does mean you’re willing to step out and try new things.
Recognize Your Resilience
Perhaps the most beautiful gift that comes from developing your self-confidence is your recognition of your own resilience. Resilience is the ability to face disasters, setbacks, and problems. But not only to face them but to overcome them with grace and grit.
Resilience doesn’t mean that you don’t ever get tired or overwhelmed. Sometimes there will be problems that you have to put down for a day or two before you tackle them fresh again. That’s completely normal.
What resilience does mean is that you don’t give up. You keep showing up to face the problem, obstacle, or setback again and again. You’re showing up because you know deep inside that you’re a tough warrior who can win the battle.
Isn’t It Time You Opened This Gift?
If self-confidence is a gift, then you must accept it. You must lovingly grant yourself this gift as the giver and you must openly receive this gift as the receiver. Lift your hands high and say, “I give myself the gift of self-confidence.”
Pause and wait a moment in silence. With your hands still lifted high, say out loud, “I accept the gift of self-confidence from myself.”
By doing this, you’re sending a powerful message to the Universe that not only do you want more self-confidence, but you’re also ready to accept it and own it!
Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.