5 Ways Lack Of Discipline Affects Your Life

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Discipline is the ability to make a decision and follow them through regardless of how hard it gets, without changing your mind. Discipline is an essential component necessary for achieving dreams. A person without discipline is practically guaranteed to fail in life. It is particularly true for dreams and life goals that aren’t ordinary. 

In an interview of the top 10 athletes on why they were great, all had the same answer. We can conclude that discipline is the first step to achieving greatness. However, what happens when one lacks discipline? Here are the ways a lack of discipline can affect your life

It Keeps You From Achieving Your Goals

A lack of discipline will keep you from staying focused on your dreams. Without discipline, you wouldn’t be able to remain in control of yourself and react appropriately to life’s situations. With discipline, you can stay in control and focused no matter the problem.

Additionally, a lack of discipline is an indicator of poor inner strength. You’re likely to give up once an activity becomes difficult, even when said activity is necessary to achieve your goal. 

According to Psychologists, people without discipline are more comfortable with mediocre performances rather than reaching for more and engaging in strenuous activities that will help them grow. Growth requires work and effort. It makes laziness appealing to people who lack discipline.

It Keeps You From Making Wise Decisions

Sometimes, the right choices necessary to achieve our dream or live a healthy life aren’t always accessible, from maintaining a healthy diet to exercising regularly to working even when we do not feel like it.

A person who lacks discipline cannot make the right choices significantly when it inconveniences them. For example, while the benefits of regular exercise are enormous, it requires discipline to stick to it. A person lacking discipline is more likely to skip exercising because it’s too hard.

Lack Of Lack Inner Strength/Character

Dr. Steve Peters, in his bestseller ‘The Chimp Paradox,’ remarks that we are already who we want to be. Our minds and choices stop us from behaving the way we would love to act. For example, you might desire to be a kind person but quickly lose your temper. In such a situation, you do not need to try to be a kind person as you already are kind. It would be best if you worked on discipline to keep your temper in check. When you are not disciplined, everyone will see you as hateful because of your lack of control over your temper.

It Reduces Your Chance Of Succeeding In Life

Sadly, most goals/dreams are not easily achieved. You need motivation, hard work, and considerable effort to achieve a goal. These things cannot be done quickly and require discipline to accomplish.

When you lack discipline, you are less likely to put in the effort required to achieve your dreams. A person who lacks discipline will always shy away from tough challenges.

When you do not meet the requirements, you’ll remain stagnant, and your quality of life will not improve.

Nothing worthwhile is achieved easily. You will have to face challenges and overcome various obstacles. The difference between success and failure is our ability to persist and persevere when facing difficult situations.

You Will Have Poor Relationships

When you lack discipline, it isn’t easy to build strong relationships. A relationship’s highly regarded characteristics, such as honesty, integrity, dependability, and loyalty, require a solid mental character. A robust mental character is only developed through discipline. The chances of you exhibiting these characteristics when you lack discipline are low.

Final Thoughts

Self-discipline is supposed to be taught to us and instilled in childhood by our caregivers. Unfortunately, this is not always the case, but that does not mean we are doomed forever. You can teach yourself self-discipline as an adult. It is a major element of personal development and growth since developing our self-discipline positively affects all areas of ourselves and our lives.

Until tomorrow, please stay safe, and keep the faith.

Are You Ready to Experience Healing through the Power of Journaling?

I have a long post, and I apologize because I know your time is important. I thought about making it a two-parter, but my schedule is heavy tomorrow, I might be late posting, so I am giving you everything today.

Enjoy the reading.

Nora and Hazel both went through painful divorces around the same time. They had been married for a similar length of time and had their marriages dissolve for the same reason—their spouse’s infidelity.

But three years later, their lives look very different. Nora is a health and wellness coach, a job she feels passionate about. She regularly volunteers by teaching yoga to students three times a week. She has a wide circle of friends and a community she can reach out to during her bad days. She’s even dipped her toe back into dating again by setting up a profile on a dating site.

Hazel is working a job she hates as a medical receptionist. Like many people, she lost most of her friends during the divorce. But Hazel didn’t begin building a new social circle, so she only has the occasional friend from college who calls to check up on her. She doesn’t leave her house except for work and to do errands like grocery shopping. She’s still bitter about the divorce; someone would think it had just happened to hear her talk.

Why is it that Nora rebuilt her life after the trauma of a painful divorce while Hazel is stuck living a life she hates and reliving her heartache day after day?

The truth is that Nora chose to heal. She recognized that her heart was broken and began taking steps to recover from her pain. One key component of her healing journey was taking the time to start a journaling routine. Regularly journaling allowed Nora to relieve stress, help her cope with the new changes in her life, and remember who she was.

Like Nora, you might be interested in journaling and how you can use it as a tool on your healing journey.

What Types of Emotional Wounds Is Journaling Good For?

Journaling can be helpful for any wound, including a breakup, being the victim of a crime, losing a loved one, or experiencing a natural disaster.

It can also be a valuable tool for exploring past trauma that continues to impact your present. For example, Shannon, as a child, was abused.

She thought it wasn’t affecting her daily life until her teenage daughter pointed out that Shannon always dated abusive and emotionally distant men. Using a guided journal, she could deal with her feelings of shame and unworthiness. Now she’s in a healthy relationship with a man who treats her well.

How Does Journaling Heal You?

The first and most powerful benefit of journaling is that it allows you to release your feelings around a situation or a person. It then frees you to look at things objectively and consider how you want to react.

For example, Jane’s boss was emotionally abusive toward his employees. He would often scream and scold her and others in front of clients. This situation created a toxic work environment, but Jane had a special needs child, so changing jobs wasn’t an option.

Jane used her journal to help her process her anger toward her boss and the resulting stress it caused in her life. Once she’d dealt with her emotions, she could brainstorm solutions that allowed her to manage her boss without letting him ruin her whole day.

Another benefit of journaling is that it gives you the space to see things you may have overlooked previously. Maybe you’ve constantly berated yourself for your lousy marriage, but when you start journaling, you realize your spouse has consistently cheated on you for years. This new insight can inspire you to let go of your unhappy marriage.

Finally, journaling lets you see if your thoughts about an event are true. Even though Patty didn’t realize it, she always blamed herself for being sexually assaulted at a party she’d attended in college.

It wasn’t until her therapist encouraged her to create a journal entry from that night that Patty saw the events. For the first time in her life, Patty put the blame where it rightfully belonged—on her abuser.

Why Do Some People Choose to Heal through Journaling?

There are various reasons that someone might choose journaling as a healing method. They might be unable to attend therapy, as this was the case for Lily. Her health insurance didn’t cover the costs, and she couldn’t find a local therapist who offered sliding scale payments.

Others might choose to journal because they feel past experiences with therapy haven’t been helpful. It could be due to not connecting with the counselor or therapist or even an inability to attend sessions regularly.

For some people, journaling isn’t a replacement for therapy at all. Instead, it’s another tool in their arsenal. In these cases, you might choose to share your journal with your therapist or counselor. It isn’t required, but it might be helpful and lead to new insights.

You might also choose to use journaling as a healing method if you don’t enjoy support groups. While some people find them incredibly therapeutic and helpful, others find their pain only intensifies the more they talk about it.

Finally, journaling can be a personal choice. You might want the time and space to process your emotions alone. There’s nothing wrong with this approach; it can be very empowering to realize you have everything you need to heal.

What Are Other Benefits of Journaling?

Besides helping you heal and relieving stress, journaling can be helpful in many things. It can help you stop ruminating on an event so that it’s not always with you. Instead, you feel you can “set it down” within your journal. You can pick up your journal when you’re ready to deal with the event again. In this way, the trauma feels contained and manageable.

You might also like to use a journal to work through anxiety and create a plan of action following a trauma. That’s what Evelyn did with hers. Evelyn’s home got burglarized, Evelyn was traumatized, and she started a journal. Within the journal, she began keeping a list of things she could do to make herself feel safer, such as buying a security system and replacing old, worn-out locks.

What If I Need More Support?

Many people use a journal as part of an overall healing strategy. It’s one tool among many others. These additional tools may include attending therapy appointments, taking daily medication, joining a support group, or talking through the situation with a supportive friend.

What’s important to keep in mind is that there’s no wrong or right way to heal from a traumatic situation. What works for your friend may not work that well for you. Expect to experiment as you work to find the right mix of tools that are best for you.

Regardless of the trauma you’ve gone through, remember to be kind to yourself. Healing is hard work, and you deserve all the support. You are brave and strong. As tough as this season of your life is, you can and will get through it.

I warned you it was a long blog post, but I know it will benefit you or someone you know.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

5 Steps to Shift Your Limiting Beliefs for Good

How are you your own worst enemy? We limit ourselves so much. We live in our heads and come up with all these ways to keep us from accomplishing anything. Even though we know we’re good enough and how much we’re fully capable of getting things done.

The only way to get past these self-sabotaging behaviors is to take active, intentional steps to remedy your thinking. Let’s look at five steps that will shift your limiting beliefs for good.

Stop

Wait a minute; what were you thinking? If a thought feels off about something, it’s time to stop and examine this idea much closer. Is this perhaps a self-limiting belief?

Think About What You’re Saying

Where is the lie in this thought? You’ve already figured out there’s something wrong with it, or you wouldn’t be going through this process. It means something about it is not ringing true. When you understand where the lie is, it becomes easier to know how to counter it.

Look for the Proof

Is there any proof this self-limiting thought is true? Let’s examine the part you feel is a lie. Here’s where you need to take a step back from the situation and look very impartially at what’s going on. Is there any grain of truth in what you’re thinking?

Take Control

If what you were thinking is a lie, it’s relatively easy to counter the false aspects of the statement with the truth. But what if this thought was at least partially true? You start by reminding yourself this isn’t always the case. For example, you might think you are always late. Maybe you are, in fact, late sometimes. To perform this step, you must recall various instances when you were on time. By countering the lie, you are taking control of the situation and not allowing the limiting belief to sway you.

Get Help

Sometimes it can be challenging to remove limiting beliefs by yourself. In these instances, it can be beneficial to talk to a friend or counselor to help you see the truth. There is nothing wrong with getting help, especially from someone who is in a position to be impartial.

Self-limiting beliefs don’t have to control your life. By examining your thoughts, especially those that seem to hold you back, you will find it much easier to move forward toward your goals. Soon you will realize success.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

4 Powerful Ways to Imagine Your Success into Reality

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Everyone has big dreams. Everyone wants to be successful. Maybe you see yourself making an Oscar acceptance speech or winning the Nobel Prize. Perhaps you want to be a successful entrepreneur or an elite athlete.

Whether you want to be winning an Olympic medal or make your first million, you can use the power of visualization to make your dreams of success a reality.

  • Picture Yourself Winning

Just wanting to be successful isn’t enough. You have to be able to taste your success. Picture yourself offered that promotion, congratulated by friends and family, and seeing your new business cards.

Make your success as accurate and detailed as you can. How good does it feel?

  • Find Your Trigger

Finding your success trigger can be a powerful way to keep the momentum and energy high. Write down your big goal, whether it’s winning an Oscar or scholarship or running your own business. Make it a positive statement that is straightforward and concise. For example, “I will be promoted to Vice President next year.”

Look at your trigger statement every day. Maybe make it your computer wallpaper or your smartphone’s lock screen. When Jim Carrey was a young actor trying to make it big, he famously wrote himself a $10 million check dated far into the future. When that day came, he was offered $10 million for his role in Dumb and Dumber.

Remember that story when you see your trigger statement and think of how good it will feel to achieve your goal.

  • Create A Vision Board

Vision boards help to make your dreams concrete. You can use pictures, photos, affirmations, and quotes to create a picture of the life you want.

A vision board can be a poster, a Pinterest board, a whiteboard, or a journal. Make sure you keep your vision board where you can see it daily and add to it when you need to or when you find a new photo or quote that speaks to you.

  • Feed Your Dream

You can make your visualization even more potent by nourishing it with positivity. Don’t put all the good feelings in the future but feed your dream with happy memories. Think of times when you felt happy, successful, and content with your life.

These positive images reinforce to your mind that you have already proven you can have a happy, fulfilled life. Keep negativity at bay by reminding yourself that you have done it and are doing it. You can do it!

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

Set Time Aside For Yourself

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Taking time out for yourself is essential to taking care of yourself. Going long periods with no breaks to breathe and be by yourself can take a massive toll on the mind and body. Increased risk of stress, anxiety, burnout, fatigue, compromised immunity, heart problems, weight fluctuations, and more are all possible side effects of not taking breaks from life when you need them. Below are some ways you can set time aside for yourself.

In The Shower Or Bath

Believe it; even a quick shower can be an excellent opportunity to snag some much-needed relaxation. Take as much time as you can, and use the time to reflect on the day or how you’d like the day to go. It is a great way to center your focus on positivity and set the stage for an improved mental state for the rest of the day. You can also have a bubble bath if you have the time, and that’s your thing! Utilizing some calming essential oils such as lavender or chamomile during a bath is a beautiful way to unwind.

Before Bed

Spend some time before bed journaling, reading a book, watching a calming nature documentary (I go for ocean docs narrated by David Attenborough,) or anything that makes you feel calm and relaxed. Setting time aside for yourself before bed allows you to process your day and prepare for a more restful night’s sleep.

Take A Road Trip

Whether just a few miles away or in a whole other state, a road trip away from everyday life’s stresses can be an excellent way to set time aside for yourself. Take a weekend, or use up some vacation time you’ve saved up and go somewhere new! Try new foods, see new places, experience as many new things as possible, and have FUN.

These are just a few examples of how you can get creative and start setting time aside for yourself as much as possible. Depending on your schedule and lifestyle, each of these things can differ in execution, but the most important thing to remember is to DO IT! Having some time to recenter yourself and refresh your mind can work wonders on your stress levels and improve your overall health if you have certain conditions triggered by stress.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

How To Become More Self-Aware

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Self-awareness is a powerful tool we can all benefit from in many ways. It lets us know the “whys” behind our behaviors, feelings, triggers, and actions. When you become more self-aware, you have the power to not only help yourself through complex issues; but you can also help others through similar ones. Being able to identify the emotional root of problems is often the key to being able to work through them. Keep reading for some tips on how to become more self-aware.

Understand Your Past

The past things that have happened to us have an impact on us even in our present. An important thing to remember is that while your past HAS shaped you as a person, it does NOT control you. Take some time to think about the struggles and traumas you have gone through and how you tend to respond when present situations remind you of them. We can all take lessons on things to avoid from our past and what red flags may arise. However, we should not assume that everything we experience that reminds us of our history will end up the same way. Learn from the past—don’t stay in it.

Step Back And Be Objective

Sometimes, a situation can make us very emotional and unable to think about the big picture. Whenever you feel overwhelmed with emotion and/or frustration, take a step back and try to see the situation from an outside perspective. Consider the points of view of the other people involved, their personal feelings and struggles, and how the combination of all your life experiences can add to unnecessary tension. Understand that you and other people are not perfect, and everyone is feeling different struggles from their pasts and presents. It will help you become more compassionate and ready to quickly come up with compromises instead of getting caught up in the negativity of arguments.

When you learn to become more self-aware, you will understand yourself and others more easily. When you know why things make you feel the way they do, you can be more at peace with yourself; and learn how to react in healthy ways.

If you have trouble figuring out certain things, it can help to speak with a trusted friend, family member, or therapist to assist you in getting to the roots of specific issues.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

Meditation For Beginners

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Here is a bonus read for today. If you have thought about meditating but are unsure how to go about it, this article will help you get started.

Meditation isn’t something just for monks in the mountains. Anyone that wants to can learn how and practice meditating. By meditating, you can become much better at being self-aware, mindful, thoughtful, calm, and much more! Keep reading to find out some great tips on meditation for beginners.

Take It Slow

Meditating isn’t something you master in a day. The mind isn’t something we can ever have complete control over. The important thing is how we process our thoughts and control our ACTIONS. Start by finding a guided meditation video, recording, or written guide that is relatively short. As a beginner, a two-hour meditation exercise can be overwhelming and unproductive, so take it slow. Just like with physical activity, you don’t want to start lifting heavy weights or running triathlons—you need to train and build up to that!

Go With The Flow

During everyday life, we can often push down and bottle up feelings we experience at any given time. It can lead to anxiety, irritability, and more. When you begin meditating regularly, you are taking time out for yourself to process all these emotions appropriately. It allows you to take stock of these feelings, ask yourself why you feel/felt that way, and then let them go and move on. Meditation isn’t about the complete emptiness of the mind. It’s about taking the time to focus and let go of negativity through mindfulness and consideration.

Set Yourself Up For Success

A relaxing environment looks different for each of us. Some people feel most relaxed in a bubble bath, while others do when they are outside sitting on the grass. There’s no set rule for WHERE you should meditate. Other than that, it should be a place that is quiet where you can focus and be relaxed. Make sure you have the tools you prefer as well. These can include headphones, a blanket or pillow, a book or creative project (such as crochet) to wind down beforehand and/or afterward, a timer, water, comfy clothes, etc. Think of things that make you feel relaxed and happy, and incorporate them where you can.

I hope this has made the possibility of practicing meditation less intimidating. Anyone open to it can do it! Make sure you take the time to do it consistently, so you can find it more accessible and easier to process your thoughts and feelings in healthy ways throughout the days.

Until tomorrow, stay safe, and keep the faith.

P.S. Happy meditation!

Get Enough Sleep

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Sleep tends to be a much-underestimated part of our well-being. You will always hear about how much you need food, water, and air to survive. However, sleep gets left at the wayside of these keys to survival. Keep reading to find out just how important it is to get enough sleep.

Sleep deprivation has nothing but adverse effects on the body. One of the most significant impacts it has is on your brain. Sleep is necessary for your brain to rest and process each day’s events. (This is why we dream!) When your brain isn’t getting enough recovery time through sleep each day, it doesn’t function as well. As more time passes, the less efficient your brain will be. Reaction times are slower; you can’t process the things you see quickly, your balance gets compromised, thought processes become messy and inconsistent, and many more cognitive issues result from lack of sleep. You can also experience crankiness and mood swings by not getting enough sleep; in extreme cases, you can even hallucinate!

Another massive blow to your health that comes from not getting enough sleep is what happens to your immune system. When you sleep, your body works on healing and building up all the cells that help you fight infection and disease. Your body can’t properly defend itself from getting sick without enough sleep. A weakened immune system can lead to many problems like a higher risk of diseases, infections, and even chronic conditions like heart disease and lung illness.

Not getting enough sleep can cause weight gain and even diabetes! Without a proper sleep schedule, your body can’t release enough hormones like insulin and leptin. These help you process sugars and feel when you’ve had enough to eat. When these hormones are out of whack, you will have a heightened appetite; and you will also be at a very high risk of developing diabetes.

So what can you do to prevent all these problems and more? Get enough sleep! The average amount of sleep every adult should be getting each night is between seven and nine hours. If you struggle to get enough sleep, schedule a sleep study with your doctor to find out why. Many things can contribute to sleep deprivation, so make sure you pay attention to your habits and possible health issues to achieve a healthy sleep schedule!

Until later, get some sleep, and keep the faith.