Your attitude is defined in two ways: internally and externally. First, your attitude is witnessed by others from the way you carry yourself. Secondly, your attitude is your inner disposition as set by your state of mind.
Of all the things in our lives out of our control, your attitude is the one thing you have the most control over. In the context of personal power, you may have absolutely no control over how much noise your upstairs neighbor makes above your head when you’re trying to sleep or work. However, you have complete control over how you react to it. Having a poorly set attitude might dispose you to react badly or rashly one day when she spends just a little bit too much time walking back and forth across the floor on her bones, or when their kids are home from school one day and make so much noise that it sounds like they’ve made a game out of jumping off their top bunk. If you have a good attitude, your inner disposition might get you through the tympanic solo in one piece.
Since your attitude is the single most relied upon predictor of your overall personality, intelligence, and emotional maturity, it’s essential that the attitude you feel internally and show externally to others is that of a winning mindset. A winning attitude is an attitude you feel and display positively.
Does this mean you can never have a bad day?
No. Absolutely not. We all have bad days. We all have moments of weakness where our temper might show through, and everyone has a breaking point. There is no doubt about that. However, people with a winning attitude tend to have the tools necessary to navigate bad days and tough times while keeping a healthy mindset intact and without damaging relationships.
Also, remember that there is a difference between a sincere winning attitude and someone simply faking it. Facades are easy to see through given enough time but aren’t necessarily noticeable unless others look for the lie. There are lots of bits of advice and various blogs written by people who advise that if you don’t currently have a winning attitude, you “fake it till you make it.” It is not a healthy approach to working toward self-reliance, having a winning attitude, developing resilience, or taking back and building on your power.
Don’t fake the personality or attitude you have. Instead, focus on developing new and healthier habits if this is what you’re looking for.
Hallmarks of a winning attitude
Individuals with a healthy winning attitude and a sense of their power will exhibit and practice certain tendencies. Specific attributes are hard to fake because their sincerity comes with time in practice.
If you’re wondering if you have a healthy and sincere winning attitude, then it’s time to do a personal inventory. People with positive attitudes will exhibit and experience positive, constructive, and creative thinking. You’ll have the motivation and energy to do the things you need to achieve the goals for which you’re reaching. Since your attitude is internal and external, you’ll carry a positive frame of mind as a default setting. It means that you’ll naturally expect success rather than failure, but you won’t look for that success without the expectation of having to put in the work. Because you experience successes, you feel inspired and see failures as learning opportunities rather than permanence problems. Individuals with winning attitudes tend to look for solutions to setbacks or stumbling blocks rather than dwelling on problems or the fact that the glass is half empty.
A winning attitude brings about
A winning attitude brings about a natural optimism from a baseline or a default setting. So, don’t despair about the problem if you’re struggling with your internal and external attitude. Instead, do what those with health-winning attitudes do: focus on the solution rather than the problem. Check why you may have a naturally pessimistic view, and change your settings.
It’s more complicated than it sounds, but the work is worth it. A winning attitude brings about natural positive changes to your mindset, inner disposition, and how others may see you.
Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.
