If you suffer from impostor syndrome, asking for help may be the last thing you want to do. Impostor syndrome can cause you to feel like you don’t deserve success or that you reached success as a fraud. Many intelligent, creative individuals deal with this phenomenon daily.
Valerie Young, the author of “The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women,” states that there are patterns in people who live with impostor syndrome. The following often are connected with those living with impostor syndrome:
- You are living with a perfectionist mindset by setting unrealistic goals. When you reach that goal, you often feel like a fraud.
- You may hinder your success by not taking a chance of reaching a new goal out of fear of failing.
- You don’t believe you have enough skills or education to start a project or apply for a job in your career field.
- You feel that only you can complete a task and never ask for help because it would make you feel like a failure.
It’s still possible for those with impostor syndrome to learn how to think like a non–impostor. Read on for some helpful tips and suggestions.
How to Ask for Help
You may find it helpful to share your struggles by asking for help, as this can open the door for others to share their experience with you. Here are some tips:
- Assess in what areas of your life your impostor syndrome are strongest
- Slowly reach out to trusted individuals who can help you in that area
- Keep in mind that constructive criticism is what can help build your self-esteem
- Practice asking for help in one area of your life daily
Asking for help may seem like you are weak or lack the knowledge required to do a job. However, this is not the case and can be one reason you become stuck in your life path.
Three Creative Ways to Ask for Help
If you are reluctant to ask for help, consider one of the creative ways listed below.
- Let a trusted co-worker or friend know that you are working on a project and would like to collaborate with them. When you come together as a team, you show them you are willing to do your part. This type of partnership can increase your knowledge and better your relationships.
- Be specific about the type of help you need. Ask if you can observe how to find the answer, and be sure to take notes. Most people are more than willing to lend a helping hand.
- Be polite when asking for help. Ask the person in private, so they can have the opportunity to get more information on what you are requesting. Once that person helps you be sure to give them praise and acknowledge this in front of others.
Remember that you must be open to helping others as you learn from them. Returning the favor can build a great team professionally and in personal relationships.
Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.