There will come a time when you may feel that you are no longer living in the moment. You may look at things happening around you and feel hopeless and stuck, like you are on autopilot, and things happen to you, rather than you being the one in the driver’s seat any longer. Finding a way to get emotionally unstuck so you can enjoy life once again can be key o helping you get the most out of life.
While many things can cause you to get stuck in life, from a mental health condition to extensive trauma that goes on in your life, there are also many steps you can take to help yourself get restarted. Some of the best tips include:
Become More Aware
One place you can start when you feel like you are stuck in with your awareness. Consider an examination of your unconscious to see what is going on. You may find that cognitive distortions or defense mechanisms are in place, making it hard to be aware of your surroundings. Even your default patterns in relationships could be to blame. Depending on the situation, you may be able to handle this on your own or may need to call in a professional.
Take on Responsibility.
According to PsychCentral.com, many people find it easier to blame someone else rather than take responsibility for their actions. You may not want to admit when you have done something wrong, but it can be freeing. Stop for a moment and take an honest inventory of how well you are behaving and what things you may have done wrong. Practice forgiveness for others and yourself as well.
Detach from Unrealistic Expectations
We often find that we have unrealistic expectations in life. Whether you are a perfectionist or not, there are times when your expectations of a person or a situation are not realistic, and it can lead to a lot of disappointment. You need to start looking at the situation and deciding if your expectations make sense for it or not, tapering back a bit if you end up adding too much that makes it impossible.
It is hard to get going again and enjoy the life you have if you can’t take the time to practice some self-love. The first step to doing this is to make that inner critic go away. When all you hear in your mind are all the ways that you are imperfect and not as good as others, you can feel down and depressed, unmotivated to get much done. Start by showing yourself some compassion and see what a difference it makes.
Ask for Support
You need to bring in some support to give you the help you desire. You are a powerful individual, but you can’t do everything alone. Bring in some support to see how they can help raise you and make you feel better. This support can come from friends and family members, but be open to seeking up from a professional, such as a therapist, who can assist you in looking deep down and working through some of your other issues.
While you can expect to get stuck in life sometimes and feel like you are on autopilot all the time, that doesn’t mean you need to stay in that situation forever. Learning to enjoy life and jump right in is one of the best ways to get going again.
Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.