Embrace All Imperfection to Enjoy Life More

If you have any contact with social media, you will notice how everyone strives to be perfect. Suddenly you can not post a selfie without at least one filter or go out for dinner without showing your curated plate of food. Even your dog has to look perfect.

What if you just decided to take a step? Away from all the competition, all that are clamoring for likes and hearts? What if you chose merely to enjoy your life without sharing it with the world? Here is how you can reclaim your life and be happier.

  1. Stop judging

You can decide right now to stop analyzing other people, looking for what is wrong with their face or their body or their life choices. Refocus your attitude to stop seeing a difference as a flaw but as merely something that makes that person unique.

Just let go of the urge to criticize others, and you will notice a flow-on effect on how you see yourself.

  • Accept your imperfection

Wanting to be the best version of yourself is not the same as being a perfectionist. A perfectionist is never happy with who they are, how they look or doing. Being your best means you work hard, you try, and you do not give up. But it does not mean you blame yourself when things are not perfect, and you do not take failure personally.

  • Relax and enjoy the process

Perfectionists tend to trip over every little detail and allow imperfections to spoil their lives. When you embrace imperfection as a natural part of life, it frees you up to enjoy the ride.

Obstacles become challenges that make life more enjoyable. You can slow down and notice all the good things there are in your life.

  • Adopt imperfection as a way of life

Once you make peace with imperfection, you can be a lot more objective about life. Your perspectives change, and what once seemed overwhelmingly important suddenly doesn’t matter so much. All experiences become just another aspect of a rich life that builds the person you are continually evolving.

Imperfection stops being something to avoid at all costs. Think about it like this: perfection implies stasis, something you achieve and have to tend. It is fragile and vulnerable. It puts an end to growth. And then what? You do not want to stop learning and growing and developing, do you? Embracing imperfection means there is always an opportunity to learn and grow and become a better person.

Until next time, please stay safe, and keep the faith.

You Can Do It!

See your goal

Understand the objectives

Create a positive attitude

Clear your mind of self-doubts

Embrace the challenge

Stay on track

Show the world

          You Can Do It!

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Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

4 Reasons We Should Embrace Criticism

I know you are wondering why I post so many different topics. It is because I do want you to get bored. By changing the issues often, you never know the day will have to share with you.

For the next three days, I will have articles regarding criticism. Its importance and how to handle it. So, let’s get started!

Being criticized never feels good. It can make you feel judged, as though you are not good enough no matter how hard you try. Most people’s reaction to criticism is to get defensive, make excuses, or blame someone else. None of those options are incredibly constructive.

It is up to you how you choose to react to criticism. You can see it as a personal attack, or you can embrace it, get the positives out of it, and move on. If you feel skeptical about criticism having any benefits, here are some excellent reasons why you should embrace it.

  • Use Criticism for Personal Growth

Often, criticism has more than a grain of truth in it, even if delivered a bit harshly. That is partly why it makes you uncomfortable—deep down, it rings true, even if you do not want to admit it.

Think of criticism as another element in your development toolbox, one that offers insight you might otherwise miss. If nothing else, observing and managing how you react to criticism can shine a spotlight on your triggers, your unconscious reactions, and assumptions.

  • Develop Emotional Resilience

Criticism usually comes laden with emotions. You feel shame, upset, and attacked. Learning to embrace criticism can help you become more emotionally resilient as you learn how to sit with your uncomfortable emotions instead of blindly reacting.

Practicing detachment takes you to a mental place where you can use your problem-solving skills. You can listen, assess, analyze, and work out what lessons to take away from experience.

Embracing criticism can also help you step away from needing other people’s approval to feel good about yourself. Once you see criticism as potentially helpful feedback, it stops being a judgment of you as a person.

  • Improve Relationships

Once you stop reacting (or over-reacting) to feedback, you allow more space for openness, honesty, and better communication. People can talk to you about problems without feeling they have to walk on eggshells.

Embracing criticism makes for much better relationships as there are fewer barriers or ‘no go’ areas. You do not want to be prickly, complicated, or defensive, nor do you want to have your self-worth depend on other people’s reasonable opinion of you.

  • Boost Self-Confidence

Embracing criticism will free you from the curse of perfectionism. You can accept that making mistakes is human and that being criticized is okay, even helpful. Accept that criticism is part of everyday life, and you will be more confident, happier, and freed up to be your best you.

Until next time, please stay safe, keep the faith.