Journal Tip

Help Others

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When you start to grow, you can help others do the same. Journaling can be your source of inspiration to help others. You can even use passages to show the people you help. You do want to let them write their journals, however. Still, showing what you have created from time to time can be a great inspiration.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

How to Overcome Negative Thoughts

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It is possible to train your mind to overcome and turn negative thoughts around. Let’s look at some strategies to turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts or stop the negative thoughts faster when they start.

  • Change the Focus – When you encounter a negative situation, try to immediately turn it into something positive by focusing on what you can learn about the situation. Even if all you know is that you do not want to do that again, that is a positive thing.
  • Most People Do not Care – The truth is, even if you say the wrong thing or dress what you think is mistaken for an event or do something that you feel embarrassed about, most people do not care that much. If you can develop the ability to laugh at the situation, that is even better. Most people do not have time to think about your bad choices, especially if it doesn’t affect them.
  • Ask Whether You are Too Serious – Sometimes, it is easy to take something seriously when it should not be. Does it matter if you slipped and fell when you were trying to sit in your seat at work? Does it matter that you put on the wrong shoes? Does it matter that much if you pronounced a word wrong? Do not hyper-focus on one mistake or one bad day.
  • Replace Negativity in Your Life – Whether it is people, places, or things, it is time to rid your life of negativity when you can. Sometimes negative people attract negative people. If you want to be more positive, try to find new friends, new activities, and things that make you happy and feel positive.
  • Do not Make Decisions Bigger Than They Are – Many people plagued with self-doubt tend to have trouble making decisions. Even if it is just what to wear, what to eat, or what to buy, they are turned into more significant situations than they are. When you are making any decision, ask yourself whether this will matter in a month, six months, or even five years from now. That way, you will determine whether this is a serious situation you need to spend more time on or if you need to make a choice and either get on with it or not.
  • Talk to Someone – Now, make sure the person you are talking to is positive and does not make you feel bad about yourself. Sometimes it helps to ask someone if you are overacting, especially if you can find someone who understands how you are trying to change your life and get over self-doubt. It may be a professional, a life coach, or a friend – even someone from a support group or an entire support group.
  • Stop Thinking About It – Sometimes, negative thoughts can ruin the experience you are living. It is better to try to shelve the negative thoughts during the incident and try to live in the moment. Being in the present enables you to truly realize that this thing is not negative at all, or not as much as your mind is trying to tell you. Then when you look back on it, you will likely be able to pick out a lot more positives than negatives.
  • Exercise – When it comes down to it, most of us have a lot of extra energy (adrenaline) that we need to burn off. Some people realize this, and that is why they get moving. Whenever you start experiencing negative thoughts, instead of letting yourself do it, get some exercise. Go to the gym, go for a run, go for a walk, ride your bike, jump rope, go for a swim – anything that you can do that you like doing is a good thing to do instead of thinking negatively.
  • Realize When It Is Fear – Sometimes negativity will poke its head in your life when you are doing something a little bit uncomfortable or pushing your comfort zone a bit. There is a quote by George Addair that is useful here, “Everything you ever wanted is on the other side of fear.” If you can remind yourself of this quote when you are experiencing negative thoughts associated with fear, you can overcome it.

It will help a lot with overcoming negative thoughts if you put these suggestions into action. You may come up with some of your own too. The point is, you want to turn negative thoughts around so that you can instead experience positivity in your day. That way, you do not get stuck in a pattern of self-doubt.

Until tomorrow, stay safe, and keep the faith. 

Reasons to Believe in Yourself

Let’s go over some reasons that you should believe in yourself so that you can combat and rid your life of self-doubt. The fact is this something that must come from within and not from other people. The idea that if you do not believe in yourself, no one else will is very true. That might seem harsh, but it is a fact that you will need to deal with in your quest to develop your new belief in yourself.

Please read the information below, take it in, and believe it. It is true of everyone, and you included. You were born with everything you need to experience success in life. Your success may look different from someone else’s success, and that is okay. You should be the one who is happy living your life because it is your life to live.

  • You Deserve It – You do deserve to have a happy, complete, and successful life that you enjoy. You can and should wake up each day ready and psyched to continue each day, no matter what it brings. You deserve to feel good about yourself and to rid yourself of self-doubt. You deserve to live a life that invigorates you, regardless of your circumstances. Even if you are experiencing challenges that no one else can relate to, you can still overcome them and live a fulfilling life.
  • Your Current Relationships – Look at the relationships you have now that are successful. The ones that make you happy. The supportive ones. The ones where you are supporting and helpful and make you feel needed. They likely believe in you, and you believe in them. Imagine if you told those people how you feel inside about yourself; wouldn’t they support you and try to talk you out of your self-doubt?
  • Where You Are Now – Even if you are struggling now, you have survived this long, right? That means you are doing something right. You are alive, and you can get this and read it. That is positive that you should focus on right now. Focus on what you have this moment, that is good, which is why you believe in yourself.
  • Prior Success – If you have been successful at something, revel in that. Did you manage to get up this morning? That is a success. Did you do well in school? That is a success. Did you get a driver’s license? That is a success. If you need to get down to the very most minor success, that is okay. You do not have to have considerable successes to draw on to know what it feels like to be successful doing something.
  • You are Just as Good as Others – Remember that you are just as good as someone else and deserve the life you want to live. No one deserves it more than you do. No one is more special, and for that fact, neither are you. But, even though everyone is the same, we all have different ideas of what constitutes success, and that too is just as good as the next person’s idea of success.

The truth is if you look from a distance at your problems and put them into relation to the world, how important are they? If you have made some bad choices that have resulted in going through a rough patch emotionally, financially, or spiritually, that is okay – this is how you grow in life. You thrive in life through experiences. It is how you react to these struggles that make up who you are.

Until tomorrow, stay safe, and keep the faith. 

How to Identify Where Your Self-Doubt Lies

Knowing how you developed self-doubt can sometimes help lead to recovering from that condition. You can build self-esteem by getting to the bottom of how it happened. Some people did have self-esteem at one point, then lost it. Some never had it in the first place.

No matter how you determine what causes your self-doubt, you will be able to overcome it. It does not matter if it is something that developed over time or something you learned in childhood. You can work toward building your belief in yourself so that you can overcome self-doubt.

Limiting Beliefs Learned in Childhood

Many people learn to put off their dreams. And limit their ideas due to well-meaning parents (or sometimes they are not so well-meaning but perhaps abusive parents) who are also stuck in their own self-doubting lives and cannot ever envision anything different. It happens a lot in communities where people are often born very poor and end up lacking experiences and education to see beyond their own lives to the possibilities that are outside their world.

It is not usually the fact that parents want to keep their kids from dreaming; they are just trying to be realistic. When their child tells them about their big dream to travel the world and become a writer, they react in fear and make statements that may be statistically true, but that limits their child.

An example, they might discourage their child from becoming a writer by telling them no one makes money writing, or they might prevent their child from becoming anything that is above what they are used to due to the fear of the costs and the fear that their child really can not do it even if they try. But this is only due to their lack of success and understanding of life.

It rubs off on the kids. That is why statistically, most people do not break out of the class they were born to. The exciting thing to remember is that some people do, and the reason they do is they were able to see and envision the possibilities and then take action to see it through.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith. 

The Dangers of Self-Doubt and How It Affects Your Life

There are many dangers inherent in hanging on to self-doubt that you should be aware of. If you suffer from self-doubt, it is vital to understand the type of damage you are doing to yourself if you continue to hang on to it. It has affected your past, affects your present, and can devastate your future if you do not deal with it. Here’s why.

  • Self-Doubt Damages Motivation – When you do not think you can do much and do not trust yourself to do something right, fear can get in the way of doing anything. It can turn into a severe lack of motivation to do more than you have to get by. It can affect your entire life because you may have fewer satisfying relationships, a job you hate, and not enjoy life much.
  • Self-Doubt Causes Procrastination – If you do not think you know how to do things “right,” you may end up thinking you are a perfectionist, which is just a way to procrastinate and never finish anything or finish it at the last minute. It is how you set yourself up for failure. No one is perfect, and perfection is not necessary to thrive in this life.
  • Self-Doubt Leads to Regret – When you miss opportunities, you will experience regret. Regret, when left unresolved, can lead to chronic stress and anxiety. It will then build upon itself to create even more self-doubt, which will generate more regret, and so on.
  • Self-Doubt Causes Defeatism – If you allow self-doubt to continue, you can start to become almost morbid in your belief that you cannot experience anything good or happy. It is essentially an acceptance of failure.
  • Self-Doubt Stunts Self-Improvement – When you have no faith in yourself, it is hard to even think about self-improvement. You think you have too much to improve because you can not do anything, and maybe you even believe you are a victim of your circumstances to the point that you cannot achieve even if you try.
  • Self-Doubt Stifles Inspiration – When you do not believe in yourself, it is hard to get inspired to do anything new or create anything new. Ending the self-doubt will bring out the creativity you already really have.

As you can see and may have experienced yourself, self-doubt can be dangerous, and these are all good reasons on their own to work toward overcoming self-doubt and learning to believe in yourself.

Until tomorrow, stay safe, and keep the faith.