Time Passes

Okay, this is one of my in between days, so, no article, but this thought was sent to me. I like what it says, and wanted to share it with you. The message is something we should all give thought to and enjoy life.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

How to Keep a Gratitude Journal

Gratitude journaling is a popular tool used by coaches and consultants to help people to improve their health and lives. Studies have shown the benefits for mental and physical health. If you are considering whether this could be something that could help you, then you probably have questions about what you need and how to do it. Gratitude journaling is very low cost and relatively simple.

You will need:

Writing implements: You could use a pen or pencil, but why not increase the fun and creative aspect by adding color and even texture. Different colored pens or pencils and different styles can make your gratitude journal not just a record of thanks but also a creative endeavor.

Notebook: While you could use a piece of paper, keeping a special notebook for your gratitude journal lets you know exactly where you are writing and allows you to review previous gratitude records. Your notebook can be a plain and simple one, or you could splash out on a more decorative one. However, why not consider using a plain notebook and jazzing it yourself.

By decorating a plain notebook or making a book from scratch, you are committing to the project itself. Your notebook will mean more to you, and you will feel a greater connection to it when you use it. After all, if you write positive thoughts inside it, you also want to feel happy and proud when you see it.

Time Alone: By taking time out away from disturbances, you are giving yourself space to think, relax and write. You’ll also find that you enjoy the experience of being alone and celebrating those things you are thankful for.

Now you know what you need, it’s time to discover how to do it.

Collect your journal and whatever you’ve chosen to write with.

Find somewhere quiet and where you know you won’t be disturbed. Your journaling time should be a time for reflection and celebration, free from outside distractions for the best results.

Ensure you are committed to gratitude journaling and that you want to feel happier and more grateful as a result. There is no point in just going through journaling motions without creating a positive, meaningful emotional experience.

When you write, instead of creating a long list of things you are grateful for, put some real thought into it. Take time to write about a particular event and describe why you are thankful for it. Remember to record how you felt and why.

Try to include people you are thankful for as much as you can, not just events. By having specific people and the reasons you are grateful for them, you will create a more significant emotional impact. It becomes more personal.

Include surprises and unexpected events like these will create a stronger sense of gratitude and a more significant emotional impact.

Set yourself a weekly date to write in your gratitude journal. While you could journal every day it may be more beneficial to create a habit of writing in your gratitude journal once a week. This will allow you to plan for it and enjoy it.

There are no right or wrong ways to keep a gratitude journal. Everyone will be different. However, it is important that you are committed to the process and the outcome, as well as make time for it on a regular basis.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

Turn Your Thoughts into Action

Do you have big plans for your life? Dreams that you want to turn into a reality. This is often easier than done, especially when you don’t know how to start taking action in the first place. Below are some ways to help you more effectively turn your thoughts into actions, no matter how crazy they may be.

Start By Making A Plan

Usually, when someone has a plan in their head, it can be a bit chaotic and maybe hard to see exactly how to get there. Therefore, you should start by making a physical, written-down plan of what you want to do. This will give you a better view of where to go to start. This will also help you to break your goals down into more manageable steps. Don’t think that just because you write a plan that it must happen exactly that way either, as once you start to take action, you can come back and adjust your plan as needed.

Stop Overthinking Everything

One of the reasons you may find yourself unable to turn thoughts into actions is probably because you are overthinking everything. The above step of planning should help you to clear up your overthinking a little bit as you write things down. But if it doesn’t, other mental relaxation techniques like meditation, talking something out with others, and taking a deep breath can help you stop overthinking. Remember, you aren’t perfect, and that isn’t what you are trying to achieve, so there is no reason to fret over your mental plan being perfect.

Figure Out What Is Stopping You From Taking Action

If you’ve done the two above steps but still can’t seem to turn your thoughts into action, it’s time to figure out why. Are you scared of failure? Too distracted? Waiting for the perfect time? Any of these can hold you back as you work to make your thoughts become a reality. If you leave them unchecked, you will never be able to take meaningful action. So, once you discover why you can’t seem to take action in your life, work through why and eliminate it from your life so that it is no longer a reason.

Turning your thoughts into action is often easier said than done, especially if you aren’t sure where to start and are overthinking everything. The trick is, you need to figure out what is stopping you from turning your thoughts into action, cut out the overthinking, and start following a plan that you have written down—and before you know it, your thoughts will become actions!

I hope you find this beneficial. Until next, stay safe, and keep the faith.

What Is Emotional Intelligence?

The dictionary describes emotional intelligence as “the skill of perceiving, understanding and managing your emotions and feelings.” Essentially, your emotional intelligence determines your ability to be self-aware, self-regulate, motivate yourself, and function socially while practicing appropriate empathy.

Self-Awareness

A self-aware person knows that they are a person, personality, or individual, and they are fully conscious of it. The benefits of being self-aware are numerous. When you possess self-awareness, you understand that you influence outcomes. You get that you need to understand things from multiple perspectives and let go of assumptions and biases.

Self-awareness allows you to communicate clearly and intentionally. Thus, you become a more effective decision-maker who makes good choices for your own life. But, more importantly, you make choices consciously aligned with your principles, morals, and values.

Self- Regulation

Setting goals, monitoring your own actions, providing compassion to yourself, and practicing positive self-talk are all excellent signs of practicing self-regulation. If you feel upset but do not toss yourself on the floor and throw a fit, it does not mean you’re not upset or that the situation is not serious.

It just means that you emotionally and intelligently control yourself to avoid more trauma. Communicating your values and vision to others while you act per your own values is a skill that pays off in all parts of your life.

Motivation

Understanding your drivers and how to motivate others is a skill in high demand. Intrinsic motivation is needed to help you reach your goals and fill your needs. In addition, if you are motivated, you’ll be more likely to change your behavior to accommodate your actual needs instead of constantly serving your wants.

Intrinsic motivation comes from understanding and believing that your actions and hard work will pay off. The good news is, with a well-thought-out personal development plan, you can draw comfort from knowing that your due diligence means that sticking to the process pays off.

Empathy

When you are empathetic, you’ll build stronger social connections by demonstrating an understanding of human nature, how they think and feel, and why others respond differently than you do to stimuli.

Having the ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes while managing your own moods as you help them take action that will change the situation. After all, as an emotionally intelligent person, you want to help solve problems and improve your own environment to impact the world positively.

Social Skill Development

As a human who lives in a family, community, and larger world, it’s imperative to relate to others empathetically so that you promote more acceptance, inclusion, and peace. When you can positively influence other people’s emotions, you will build stronger families and communities and help become a driver to a more peaceful and safer world.

Emotional intelligence is a group of essential and necessary skills that you can learn and practice. As you learn these skills, you will develop into the person you want to be who experiences their life as complete and successful while also holding up others.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

Journaling For Mental Calm and Clarity

I have more information to share regarding journaling. I may finish the rest of this week with the information I learn on journaling. I have not decided on next week. By now, you know I like to like to write about different subjects, and friends have convinced me I should share more of my creative writing.

I tell you this every so often for the benefit of new people following my blog. The idea is not only to keep you from getting bored, but I don’t want to get bored either. So I will continue to provide you with information you can use and try to entertain you.

Now that I have that out of the way let’s talk journaling.

Life gets overwhelming, and emotions run high when we are battling with demons or trying to solve a problem that feels unsolvable. One of the most-used tools of therapists or consultants is journaling. Journaling is one of the most effective ways to create clarity and calm out of chaos and confusion.

Let’s look at how journaling can create more clarity in your life:

Journaling is a judgment-free activity that doesn’t talk back by giving a voice to your feelings. Journals are there to receive your information. Unlike your best friend or mother, a journal is there to listen and not offer unsolicited advice. A journal doesn’t meddle or get bored. A journal provides a safe space for you to process. Whether good, bad, or socially inappropriate, a journal is an excellent way to free yourself from your burdens and reduce chaos.

By working your mind to solve problems- Studies prove that our minds are designed to solve problems. Our psyche wants to figure out how to do whatever needs to be done. It is how innovation and technology have changed the world by solving problems. The best way to solve a problem is to work on it. Sort of like a Rubik’s cube, imagine your mind twisting and turning those colors until you get the pattern that unlocks the door and fixes the dilemma.

Helping you define next steps- As you journal and express yourself and work on the issues at hand, your mind experiences dopamine release and starts to feel calm and competent. Ideas begin to form as to your next steps, and suddenly you have an epiphany that changes the game. Your sleep improves, your confidence improves, and you are focused.

There is something magical about releasing your chaos and confusion into a journal and discovering that there is calm and clarity available to you. Allow yourself to work through your issues by journaling and experiencing the satisfaction of solving your problems.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

5 Beliefs That Keep You from Attacking Your Goals

Everyone has dreams, but not everyone makes their dreams into goals. You may have a few of these too. What are the reasons you tell yourself late at night to put the shutdown on making them a reality? These reasons are beliefs that you have, but that doesn’t mean they are valid reasons.

  1. Not Enough Time

Everyone is busy these days. When someone asks how you are doing, you probably respond with “Busy.” But that might not be the truth. Everyone has the same twenty-four hours in the day. For a week or maybe two, keep a time ladder of how you spent your time. This includes sleeping, preparing and eating meals, social media, getting ready for work, cleaning your house. Take a good look at how you spend your time, and you might realize you have more time than you realize.

  • I Don’t Have ‘X’ Talent

It doesn’t matter if you want to write a book or paint a picture. You have as much talent as you are willing to work for. You may not have been born with the natural ability to paint, which doesn’t mean you can’t learn and practice.

  • After ‘X’ I Will Do It

“Once I get through this (insert tough project at work), I will start training for that marathon.” “After I lose twenty pounds, I will take a salsa dancing class.” Why are you waiting? Maybe that marathon training will help you work through the stress of that project at work. Perhaps salsa dancing lessons will allow you to realize that your body is worthy of fun and sexy movement no matter your weight. If you have a goal, go for it now.

  • I’m Not Good Enough

What ruler are you using to measure your “good enough”? You are always good enough to go after your dreams and goals. If this is an internal dialogue, you need to work on liking and loving yourself first. If this belief is coming from external sources, consider those sources and hold you back.

  • ‘X’ Person Has it Easier

The grass is greener where you water it. Walk a mile in someone else’s shoes. Many sayings sum up that you don’t know what someone else is going through. So please do not assume that someone has it easier and can achieve their goals while you cannot. That person may think you have it easier or better.

Self-limiting beliefs can be a slippery slope. They can also keep you from even trying to reach your goals. Take time to examine your reasoning and develop better beliefs to counter the negative ones.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

How to Overcome Negative Thoughts

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It is possible to train your mind to overcome and turn negative thoughts around. Let’s look at some strategies to turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts or stop the negative thoughts faster when they start.

  • Change the Focus – When you encounter a negative situation, try to immediately turn it into something positive by focusing on what you can learn about the situation. Even if all you know is that you do not want to do that again, that is a positive thing.
  • Most People Do not Care – The truth is, even if you say the wrong thing or dress what you think is mistaken for an event or do something that you feel embarrassed about, most people do not care that much. If you can develop the ability to laugh at the situation, that is even better. Most people do not have time to think about your bad choices, especially if it doesn’t affect them.
  • Ask Whether You are Too Serious – Sometimes, it is easy to take something seriously when it should not be. Does it matter if you slipped and fell when you were trying to sit in your seat at work? Does it matter that you put on the wrong shoes? Does it matter that much if you pronounced a word wrong? Do not hyper-focus on one mistake or one bad day.
  • Replace Negativity in Your Life – Whether it is people, places, or things, it is time to rid your life of negativity when you can. Sometimes negative people attract negative people. If you want to be more positive, try to find new friends, new activities, and things that make you happy and feel positive.
  • Do not Make Decisions Bigger Than They Are – Many people plagued with self-doubt tend to have trouble making decisions. Even if it is just what to wear, what to eat, or what to buy, they are turned into more significant situations than they are. When you are making any decision, ask yourself whether this will matter in a month, six months, or even five years from now. That way, you will determine whether this is a serious situation you need to spend more time on or if you need to make a choice and either get on with it or not.
  • Talk to Someone – Now, make sure the person you are talking to is positive and does not make you feel bad about yourself. Sometimes it helps to ask someone if you are overacting, especially if you can find someone who understands how you are trying to change your life and get over self-doubt. It may be a professional, a life coach, or a friend – even someone from a support group or an entire support group.
  • Stop Thinking About It – Sometimes, negative thoughts can ruin the experience you are living. It is better to try to shelve the negative thoughts during the incident and try to live in the moment. Being in the present enables you to truly realize that this thing is not negative at all, or not as much as your mind is trying to tell you. Then when you look back on it, you will likely be able to pick out a lot more positives than negatives.
  • Exercise – When it comes down to it, most of us have a lot of extra energy (adrenaline) that we need to burn off. Some people realize this, and that is why they get moving. Whenever you start experiencing negative thoughts, instead of letting yourself do it, get some exercise. Go to the gym, go for a run, go for a walk, ride your bike, jump rope, go for a swim – anything that you can do that you like doing is a good thing to do instead of thinking negatively.
  • Realize When It Is Fear – Sometimes negativity will poke its head in your life when you are doing something a little bit uncomfortable or pushing your comfort zone a bit. There is a quote by George Addair that is useful here, “Everything you ever wanted is on the other side of fear.” If you can remind yourself of this quote when you are experiencing negative thoughts associated with fear, you can overcome it.

It will help a lot with overcoming negative thoughts if you put these suggestions into action. You may come up with some of your own too. The point is, you want to turn negative thoughts around so that you can instead experience positivity in your day. That way, you do not get stuck in a pattern of self-doubt.

Until tomorrow, stay safe, and keep the faith. 

Reasons to Believe in Yourself

Let’s go over some reasons that you should believe in yourself so that you can combat and rid your life of self-doubt. The fact is this something that must come from within and not from other people. The idea that if you do not believe in yourself, no one else will is very true. That might seem harsh, but it is a fact that you will need to deal with in your quest to develop your new belief in yourself.

Please read the information below, take it in, and believe it. It is true of everyone, and you included. You were born with everything you need to experience success in life. Your success may look different from someone else’s success, and that is okay. You should be the one who is happy living your life because it is your life to live.

  • You Deserve It – You do deserve to have a happy, complete, and successful life that you enjoy. You can and should wake up each day ready and psyched to continue each day, no matter what it brings. You deserve to feel good about yourself and to rid yourself of self-doubt. You deserve to live a life that invigorates you, regardless of your circumstances. Even if you are experiencing challenges that no one else can relate to, you can still overcome them and live a fulfilling life.
  • Your Current Relationships – Look at the relationships you have now that are successful. The ones that make you happy. The supportive ones. The ones where you are supporting and helpful and make you feel needed. They likely believe in you, and you believe in them. Imagine if you told those people how you feel inside about yourself; wouldn’t they support you and try to talk you out of your self-doubt?
  • Where You Are Now – Even if you are struggling now, you have survived this long, right? That means you are doing something right. You are alive, and you can get this and read it. That is positive that you should focus on right now. Focus on what you have this moment, that is good, which is why you believe in yourself.
  • Prior Success – If you have been successful at something, revel in that. Did you manage to get up this morning? That is a success. Did you do well in school? That is a success. Did you get a driver’s license? That is a success. If you need to get down to the very most minor success, that is okay. You do not have to have considerable successes to draw on to know what it feels like to be successful doing something.
  • You are Just as Good as Others – Remember that you are just as good as someone else and deserve the life you want to live. No one deserves it more than you do. No one is more special, and for that fact, neither are you. But, even though everyone is the same, we all have different ideas of what constitutes success, and that too is just as good as the next person’s idea of success.

The truth is if you look from a distance at your problems and put them into relation to the world, how important are they? If you have made some bad choices that have resulted in going through a rough patch emotionally, financially, or spiritually, that is okay – this is how you grow in life. You thrive in life through experiences. It is how you react to these struggles that make up who you are.

Until tomorrow, stay safe, and keep the faith.