How to Keep a Gratitude Journal

Gratitude journaling is a popular tool used by coaches and consultants to help people to improve their health and lives. Studies have shown the benefits for mental and physical health. If you are considering whether this could be something that could help you, then you probably have questions about what you need and how to do it. Gratitude journaling is very low cost and relatively simple.

You will need:

Writing implements: You could use a pen or pencil, but why not increase the fun and creative aspect by adding color and even texture. Different colored pens or pencils and different styles can make your gratitude journal not just a record of thanks but also a creative endeavor.

Notebook: While you could use a piece of paper, keeping a special notebook for your gratitude journal lets you know exactly where you are writing and allows you to review previous gratitude records. Your notebook can be a plain and simple one, or you could splash out on a more decorative one. However, why not consider using a plain notebook and jazzing it yourself.

By decorating a plain notebook or making a book from scratch, you are committing to the project itself. Your notebook will mean more to you, and you will feel a greater connection to it when you use it. After all, if you write positive thoughts inside it, you also want to feel happy and proud when you see it.

Time Alone: By taking time out away from disturbances, you are giving yourself space to think, relax and write. You’ll also find that you enjoy the experience of being alone and celebrating those things you are thankful for.

Now you know what you need, it’s time to discover how to do it.

Collect your journal and whatever you’ve chosen to write with.

Find somewhere quiet and where you know you won’t be disturbed. Your journaling time should be a time for reflection and celebration, free from outside distractions for the best results.

Ensure you are committed to gratitude journaling and that you want to feel happier and more grateful as a result. There is no point in just going through journaling motions without creating a positive, meaningful emotional experience.

When you write, instead of creating a long list of things you are grateful for, put some real thought into it. Take time to write about a particular event and describe why you are thankful for it. Remember to record how you felt and why.

Try to include people you are thankful for as much as you can, not just events. By having specific people and the reasons you are grateful for them, you will create a more significant emotional impact. It becomes more personal.

Include surprises and unexpected events like these will create a stronger sense of gratitude and a more significant emotional impact.

Set yourself a weekly date to write in your gratitude journal. While you could journal every day it may be more beneficial to create a habit of writing in your gratitude journal once a week. This will allow you to plan for it and enjoy it.

There are no right or wrong ways to keep a gratitude journal. Everyone will be different. However, it is important that you are committed to the process and the outcome, as well as make time for it on a regular basis.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

8 Benefits You Receive When You Expand Your Comfort Zone

When you leave your comfort zone, amazing things can happen. Instead of life staying the same, it changes and expands day after day. The more you allow it to grow; the more fulfilling life will be. Here are just a few of the many benefits you receive when you stretch your comfort zone.

  1. You’ll Become More Resilient – Life isn’t perfect. It’s full of hard knocks. Being knocked down and getting back up is essential for experiencing a successful life. These trials and tribulations you share help you become more resilient. When you’re resilient, you can more easily brush yourself off, reevaluate and switch direction when needed.
  • You’ll Get More Done – Being able to pick up the pieces and move on enables you to become that much more productive. You don’t allow issues to stop you from reaching your goals.
  • Your Creativity Will Increase – The comfort zone is where creativity goes stale. When you step outside of your comfort zone, you’ll start experiencing new things which will spark your creativity in ways you don’t even know yet. You’ll have many more resources to pull from to fuel your creativity.
  • Your Knowledge Will Expand – As you expand your comfort zone, your knowledge will grow too. Leaving your comfort zone is not about jumping off a cliff without mitigating the risk. Instead, it allows you to learn and research the choices you want to make and the things you want to try.
  • You’ll Become More Self Assured – You’ll gain a boost in confidence each time you step forward and leave your comfort zone. The experiences you’re having while expanding your comfort zone will make the next thing you want to try.
  • You Will Grow as a Person – Pushing through your fears changes your core being. That change will register as growth for you and will feel great, too, because you’ll get to know yourself on a deeper level. Knowing who you are is essential to choosing the right goals for you and reaching them every time.
  • Your Focus Will Be Higher – When you leave your comfort zone, you’re going to feel more alive than you have in a long while because it’s all-new. The things you hear, see, smell and feel will be that much more apparent to you as you focus on being mindful and in the present.
  • You’ll Be More Likely to Succeed – When you expand your comfort zone, you keep everything in perspective, so you set realistic goals and create actual plans to reach them. Doing this helps you succeed at everything you do.

When your comfort zone expands, you become that much more competent, more resilient, and able to get so much more accomplished. One thing builds on another, allowing you to achieve more at will. You get to know yourself more in-depth, realizing you are in total control of your life, so you live a more fulfilled and happier life.

WOW! 402 Consecutive Blog Posts!

I thought I would do my blog post differently this time. For the next 400 blogs, I will include videos and share more of myself. I will also continue to share articles and other information that I believe will benefit you.

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It has been a pleasure to share with you. Thank you so much for sticking with me during my learning time with this blog. I have loved every moment of putting together information for you. Stay with me and we can grow together. Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

You Can Do It!

See your goal

Understand the objectives

Create a positive attitude

Clear your mind of self-doubts

Embrace the challenge

Stay on track

Show the world

          You Can Do It!

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I have a new goal! My goal is to speak three times a week. You can help me if you know of a group, organization, or association looking for a speaker, have them contact me at lawanna@lawannaspeaks.com. I speak on Journaling, Selfcare, and Confidence.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

Self-Care is the Ultimate Anti-Aging Hack

When it comes to fighting off the effects of aging, there is a lot you can do. You can eat right, take great care of your skin, exercise, and all of that, but ultimately the best anti-aging hack is self-care. Self-care makes all the difference in aging because it feeds your very unique and specific needs. While nutrition, diet, and exercise are general and can apply to most people, self-care is highly personal, and what one person needs may look nothing like what someone else does.

We all need self-care, but not the same kind

We can all agree that self-care is vital, but we will likely disagree on the type and frequency everyone needs. Only you know what self-care means to you and how much and what type you need. For new moms, self-care could mean a shower and a nap, while a retired or widowed woman may need companionship for self-care.

We all need self-care, but not the same kind. You have got to tune into what you need and make it a priority. If you need 9 1/2 hours of sleep per night to be healthy, you have to make that your focus. Ultimately, whether or not you add self-care to the list of anti-aging hacks will determine how well you fight the aging process.

We all need self-care, but it changes over time

What we needed for self-care a year ago may not be what we need today. As our situations change over time, so does the sort and frequency of self-care we need today. Be sure to stay tuned to what you need to care for yourself and make any shifts or adjustments along the way. It’s reasonable to expect that what you need changes and how you get your fill of self-care will change too.

We all need self-care, and so does your family

People resist self-care because it feels indulgent and selfish. One of the easiest ways to make space for guilt-free self-care is to make it a priority for your whole family. It becomes normalized when you model the importance of self-care and empower others to take it for themselves. People feel more relaxed and supported, and that promotes aging well and living a stress-less lifestyle.

You can fight aging by eating right and drinking plenty of water, but you add to the richness of life by making self-care a regular part of your routine. Take the time to care for yourself, and it will reflect in your happiness and the longevity of your life.

Well, this concludes my thoughts on aging for now. I have not decided on my next subject. I will share my morning and evening self-care habits with you tomorrow. If you have some ideas of subjects, you would like me to cover, please leave a comment. Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith.

Failure is Your Friend

There is a lot of talks out there about success. Do a quick search about any business-related subject, and you are sure to come up with a slew of content that, in some way, talks about or discusses success. Search Amazon using the word “success.” What are your search results going to be? Hundreds and hundreds of books whose subject revolves about being successful at something. Now, this is not necessarily a bad thing. Everyone wants to be successful at whatever it is they are doing. It is especially true in a business environment. In business, success means a satisfied and happy customer base. It means demand for your product or service exceeding supply. It means having a lean and flexible organization. Most of all, it means a comfortable profit margin.

The thing is, success is not all about success. Let me put that another way. When all you do is concentrate on the positive results of being successful, you miss the point. You see, it is ironic, but real success is not about succeeding. Instead, it is about failure.

No one wants to talk about failure. People tend to avoid both the word and the concept. When discussing failure, treat it as a moral lesson. The person who failed is held up as an example of how not to do things. There is a suggestion, and sometimes more than a suggestion, that some internal personal flaw caused the failure. This tendency to avoid disappointment or blame the person who did not succeed for their failure is highly damaging. It perpetuates the myth of winners who succeed almost effortlessly, who are ordained to win due to some superior moral compass. Nothing could be further from the truth.

The absolute truth is that you must fail to succeed. Oscar Wilde said that experience is simply the name that we give our mistakes. Nothing could be more accurate. We learn from our mistakes. Failing teaches us the lessons that we need to know to reach our goals. The most successful people understand this. They have internalized the lessons of their failures. They have used these lessons to get where they are today. Real success is not a game or a reality show. It does not fall upon the shoulders of the chosen few. Real success comes from failing, often more than once. In these moments of failure, we learn how to avoid mistakes in the future and successfully reach our goals.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith. 

Signs It is Time to Change Your Mindset

“The key to abundance is to stop needing more, and to start appreciating what you already have.” – Anonymous

Everyone is talking about changing your mindset to manifest what you desire. How do you know when it is time to change your perspective? After all, you have been thinking the same way for as long as you can remember. Or maybe you have had a rough patch, and your attitude has gotten out of whack. When you start having more gloomy days than good ones, it is time to change your mindset. These are some of the reasons you may want to change your mindset.

Our mindset is what produces the thoughts we have. That is the attitude that shapes our thinking which controls our actions and how we feel about things. If you have a negative attitude, then your thoughts start blaming and thinking the worst. When you have positive or healthy reviews, you create a better environment for yourself and those around you.

Six Signs it is Time to Change Your Mindset

  • You are focused on failure instead of succeeding. You feel angry and disappointed over every failure without celebrating your success. You constantly see yourself as a failure, unconsciously sending negative messages to your mind that you will fail at whatever you try to accomplish. Instead: Keep a success diary acknowledging every success each day, no matter how small.
  • You have a victim mentality. You have been a victim of bad experiences or hurt by others you love. Or you were traumatized from some event. You are still holding onto those moments. Instead: Forgive and let go of the past.
  • You have social media envy. You see the unnatural glamorous lifestyles of other people online, making you feel worse about yourself. You devalue what you have. You focus on what you do not have or are not doing. Instead: Think about what you do have and show gratitude for it. There are billions of people on this planet, and at least a billion would love to have your life.
  • You see work as a chore. You dread going to work, complain about doing the work, or feel like it is a burden. Instead, you could view your job as a means of providing value to others. Think of it having an impact on you and others. Being able to work allows you to contribute to society.
  • You obsess about things you can not control or change. You complain about what you can not control, like the weather, government, traffic, and other people. Your mind is filled with everything you do not like, rather than what you can control yourself. Identify how you can change and manage your actions and thoughts to make the experience more positive. Stop complaining and start taking steps that will bring you a greater sense of accomplishment and abundance.
  • You lack gratitude for what you have. You focus on what is wrong with things or the world or the inadequacies in yourself and others. Instead, acknowledge that no one is perfect, and everyone learns lessons as they go. Focus on identifying the positive things you are grateful for every day.

When you realize that you rarely feel happy and content is a negative mindset, you know it is time to change your mindset to feel better about yourself and attract more abundance into your life.

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith. 

Journaling your Way to Massive Action Success

Journaling is not just for 12-year-old girls! Journaling can be a powerful weapon in your get-it-done arsenal, and it’s easy to do. You can and should put all kinds of things in a goal journal, not just your thoughts and feelings on a given day.

Journaling is just one way of tracking your actions and successes, and yes, even your setbacks and failures. It also keeps your goal right in front of your face, so you keep on top of taking action steps every day. It supports all your ideas and revelations in one place, so you can go back and review whenever you want.

For example, if you are having trouble getting motivated one day because you feel like you have been working hard but making little progress, going back into your goal journal is a beautiful way to help you see that all of those little actions really pay off in a big way. So what should you keep in your goal journal? Start with these ideas and add to them as you see fit.

  • The explicit goal--Write down your exact goal in as much detail as possible. Describe it in a way that makes you feel excited about what your life will be like when you achieve your objective.
  • Your Why--Your Why is the big reason why you want to reach the goal you have defined for yourself. It is the reason you are willing to take the massive action steps needed to change your life for the better.
  • Massive action plans and schedule–When you plan how you will reach your goal, write it here. Writing it down is essential to track your efforts to see what actions are creating the most results.
  • Braindumps--A brain dump is just a list of actions you need to take in no particular order. Sometimes all the tasks you need to take build up in your head, making you confused about where you should start and what you should do next.
  • Prioritize--After you do a brain dump, organize the tasks into a priority list and add them to your daily and weekly to-do lists.
  • Daily to-do list–Write out your to-do lists here, so they are always handy.
  • Aha’s–As you take massive action, you will have inspiration or aha moments when something becomes apparent. Capture those ideas here to refer to them later when you are ready to put them into action.
  • Journal entries–Yes, you should journal. Sometimes there’s nothing better than a stream of consciousness writing to help you solve a problem or get your worries off your chest. It is a therapeutic and inspirational way to work.

Are you looking for tremendous success? Start journaling!

Until next time, stay safe, and keep the faith. 

How to Overcome Negative Thoughts

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It is possible to train your mind to overcome and turn negative thoughts around. Let’s look at some strategies to turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts or stop the negative thoughts faster when they start.

  • Change the Focus – When you encounter a negative situation, try to immediately turn it into something positive by focusing on what you can learn about the situation. Even if all you know is that you do not want to do that again, that is a positive thing.
  • Most People Do not Care – The truth is, even if you say the wrong thing or dress what you think is mistaken for an event or do something that you feel embarrassed about, most people do not care that much. If you can develop the ability to laugh at the situation, that is even better. Most people do not have time to think about your bad choices, especially if it doesn’t affect them.
  • Ask Whether You are Too Serious – Sometimes, it is easy to take something seriously when it should not be. Does it matter if you slipped and fell when you were trying to sit in your seat at work? Does it matter that you put on the wrong shoes? Does it matter that much if you pronounced a word wrong? Do not hyper-focus on one mistake or one bad day.
  • Replace Negativity in Your Life – Whether it is people, places, or things, it is time to rid your life of negativity when you can. Sometimes negative people attract negative people. If you want to be more positive, try to find new friends, new activities, and things that make you happy and feel positive.
  • Do not Make Decisions Bigger Than They Are – Many people plagued with self-doubt tend to have trouble making decisions. Even if it is just what to wear, what to eat, or what to buy, they are turned into more significant situations than they are. When you are making any decision, ask yourself whether this will matter in a month, six months, or even five years from now. That way, you will determine whether this is a serious situation you need to spend more time on or if you need to make a choice and either get on with it or not.
  • Talk to Someone – Now, make sure the person you are talking to is positive and does not make you feel bad about yourself. Sometimes it helps to ask someone if you are overacting, especially if you can find someone who understands how you are trying to change your life and get over self-doubt. It may be a professional, a life coach, or a friend – even someone from a support group or an entire support group.
  • Stop Thinking About It – Sometimes, negative thoughts can ruin the experience you are living. It is better to try to shelve the negative thoughts during the incident and try to live in the moment. Being in the present enables you to truly realize that this thing is not negative at all, or not as much as your mind is trying to tell you. Then when you look back on it, you will likely be able to pick out a lot more positives than negatives.
  • Exercise – When it comes down to it, most of us have a lot of extra energy (adrenaline) that we need to burn off. Some people realize this, and that is why they get moving. Whenever you start experiencing negative thoughts, instead of letting yourself do it, get some exercise. Go to the gym, go for a run, go for a walk, ride your bike, jump rope, go for a swim – anything that you can do that you like doing is a good thing to do instead of thinking negatively.
  • Realize When It Is Fear – Sometimes negativity will poke its head in your life when you are doing something a little bit uncomfortable or pushing your comfort zone a bit. There is a quote by George Addair that is useful here, “Everything you ever wanted is on the other side of fear.” If you can remind yourself of this quote when you are experiencing negative thoughts associated with fear, you can overcome it.

It will help a lot with overcoming negative thoughts if you put these suggestions into action. You may come up with some of your own too. The point is, you want to turn negative thoughts around so that you can instead experience positivity in your day. That way, you do not get stuck in a pattern of self-doubt.

Until tomorrow, stay safe, and keep the faith. 

Reasons to Believe in Yourself

Let’s go over some reasons that you should believe in yourself so that you can combat and rid your life of self-doubt. The fact is this something that must come from within and not from other people. The idea that if you do not believe in yourself, no one else will is very true. That might seem harsh, but it is a fact that you will need to deal with in your quest to develop your new belief in yourself.

Please read the information below, take it in, and believe it. It is true of everyone, and you included. You were born with everything you need to experience success in life. Your success may look different from someone else’s success, and that is okay. You should be the one who is happy living your life because it is your life to live.

  • You Deserve It – You do deserve to have a happy, complete, and successful life that you enjoy. You can and should wake up each day ready and psyched to continue each day, no matter what it brings. You deserve to feel good about yourself and to rid yourself of self-doubt. You deserve to live a life that invigorates you, regardless of your circumstances. Even if you are experiencing challenges that no one else can relate to, you can still overcome them and live a fulfilling life.
  • Your Current Relationships – Look at the relationships you have now that are successful. The ones that make you happy. The supportive ones. The ones where you are supporting and helpful and make you feel needed. They likely believe in you, and you believe in them. Imagine if you told those people how you feel inside about yourself; wouldn’t they support you and try to talk you out of your self-doubt?
  • Where You Are Now – Even if you are struggling now, you have survived this long, right? That means you are doing something right. You are alive, and you can get this and read it. That is positive that you should focus on right now. Focus on what you have this moment, that is good, which is why you believe in yourself.
  • Prior Success – If you have been successful at something, revel in that. Did you manage to get up this morning? That is a success. Did you do well in school? That is a success. Did you get a driver’s license? That is a success. If you need to get down to the very most minor success, that is okay. You do not have to have considerable successes to draw on to know what it feels like to be successful doing something.
  • You are Just as Good as Others – Remember that you are just as good as someone else and deserve the life you want to live. No one deserves it more than you do. No one is more special, and for that fact, neither are you. But, even though everyone is the same, we all have different ideas of what constitutes success, and that too is just as good as the next person’s idea of success.

The truth is if you look from a distance at your problems and put them into relation to the world, how important are they? If you have made some bad choices that have resulted in going through a rough patch emotionally, financially, or spiritually, that is okay – this is how you grow in life. You thrive in life through experiences. It is how you react to these struggles that make up who you are.

Until tomorrow, stay safe, and keep the faith.